“I am fine.”

How many times have you said this statement? Is it just a word or feeling or emotion? Now, let’s analyze this question.

How are you?

I often feel we don’t wish to know the answer to this question. It merely a matter of a formality, sometimes. It’s even a statement we use to break the ice or a way to start a conversation. This’s what makes us social animals. However, when it comes to people close to us, are we really concerned, or is it just for the sake of formality.

The Millennial World

Social media has introduced us to a new language of communication. Words are short, and emotions have numerous faces. Words have lost their meanings and beliefs are fast-moving. However, the most significant impact has occurred in terms of people showing concerns towards one another.

We have forgotten what “being fine” means!  

Recently, I was talking to my Mother over a cup of coffee. She told me that being fine was considered as a not that good situation to be in, during her time. Hearing that someone is just fine, and not good would be a cause of concern. It just meant that the person is not feeling good for some reason.

And, that made me realize how materialistic have we become. We often do not care about anyone except us. No matter how much progress have we made, but when it comes to relationships or personal, we haven’t evolved satisfactorily.   

Fine – it is not just a word.   

Apparently, whatever people might say can mirror their mental state. There will be some people who would always say, okay, good, someone will always say – excellent, and so on.

When someone says they are fine or okay, it means that the person might not be good. Or else, you will never say so, until the person is not very close to you. 

Fine! Stop telling that first. No one cares until that person doesn’t consider you important. How can you be fine? 

Either you be okay or not okay. There can be nothing on this planet expect this.

• You don’t go on a vacation with your family and friends, and say you are fine!
• You don’t have awesome sex for a month, and you say you are fine, isn’t it?
• You don’t start dating the person of your dreams, and say you are fine.

Think for yourself and say, are you not okay, fine, good, or awesome? Then to tell anyone that you are fine, is the one thing you giving people a chance to talks.

Let me be clear; I am not telling you to crib in front of everyone you meet. But don’t make this word or emotion rule your world. 

Especially, I have a problem when people start comforting themselves with this falsified “fine” status too often. Because when you say this, it means you are comfortable with your surrounding, and you aren’t looking for a change.  When you say, “it’s fine” for yourself even when you know things are not okay, remember, you cannot stick to the statement within your mind.

Share your thoughts, let me know How are you? Fine! or Fantastic! share your experiences with us at contact@aarthalife.in  in the comments section below.

Happy musings!