How many friends do you have on social media? I guess, not less at least 300 on Facebook or Instagram. Might be 50 here and there, but definitely hovering around that number.
Now think, when you get sad or feel broken, how many friends do you remember? Be true to yourself with the numbers. Think about how many people come to lift your spirits when you are down?
A friend in need is a friend indeed!
How many people help you? Who is capable of devoting time to listen to your problems, if not be able to find a solution?
I feel social media has created a gap between the people who indeed befriend us. We have forgotten that there is a life beyond social media. What has happened is, people meet via social media, exchange numbers, start talking and suddenly lose interest and find new contacts. They don’t try to make a bond or develop strong friendships. Due to social media, we have failed to work on our relationships. We don’t know how to interact with people. We have started taking this platform seriously enough to forget that we have made it for our convince. However, now we are slaves of it.
The New Normal
I would not deny the fact that in the current situation of pandemic, where there are lock-down in many nations, social media has actually helps us to remain connected with our families and friends. But still we we get the news of the people getting into depression, anxiety and suicides. This proved that we need to meet people in person and not just on screen. The advantage is that we know our people are safe and sound. But still, I guess majority of us want to get out of screens now and get back to the life with some changes with our family and friends.
How we make friends makes us…
We make friends or find friends, or regain touch with old ones. We start our conversation, exchange numbers, talk on the phone, or rather chat, we don’t meet them. We give excuses of being busy, and then we find newer mates.
Nowadays, the biggest reason why people suffer trust issues is because of the excess use of social media. People have developed a never-ending want for attention. There’s lesser importance or attached perceived purity of personal space. Social media gives us the illusion of ‘perfection’. This illusion often comes in our way of making real connections. It works like Photoshop, filters your identity/image/life and portrays us as perfect in front of some odd hundred people. Frankly, it has nothing to do with real life.
People do say that they get in touch with old friends. They have always wanted to be in touch with them, but because of their priorities, they wouldn’t. They get to know new people faster, and faster do they split.
The filter that hides the real
We see relationships getting spoiled due to social media. How many times can we count on friends whom we call friends? We meet several people on social media. Probably, we will never meet these people, but we are good with sharing everything, even our profoundly personal stuff. How and why do we trust these people but fail to trust the ones we come across outside our screen.
Maybe, it’s high time we understand how far we have to take this effect into our lives and at the same time, we need to realize that it’s time we are true to our physical world then our virtual world.
Isn’t it ironic that we have to say on social media to get a life beyond social media.
We need to stop getting influenced by social media, where people might be paying to gain fame. Won’t it be better if we were too contrite on ourselves and make self-improvements? Wouldn’t it be better than seeing oneself through other’s lens? Let’s answer this honesty to ourselves and understand what are we doing?
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