This topic has been one of my favourites to work on. It has always shown and proved to us how complex the human brain is. We are still enormously confused about ourselves and about our life choices. We often depend on external factors for our choices and emotional decisions. And, we get used to listening to other people and seeing their observations towards particular things. In all of this, we tend to generally forget what was that we were thinking, thus creating a conflict of interest within us.

The Conflict Within

After all the years of counselling, meeting people from different ways of life and listening to them and their problems, one thing is for sure that whenever you get a conflict of interest within a particular situation, it is not just because of that, but many other factors in life. The aspects you may not be aware of or avoiding it for the most prolonged time. Or we don’t try to heal ourselves from that particular situation which is the reason for the creation of conflicts of interest within your brain and in your system. If this is not healed on time, or not given a proper solution, then it can create a loss of confidence in yourself. Hence, it creates confusion while taking decisions.

The Society

Another reason for this conflict of interest is Society. There’s a particular atmosphere we all have been raised in. While growing up, we might see many changes in Society, good and bad, both. Society may drive towards rationality or irrationality, righteousness or delusion, and so on. We are made to believe certain things which may be very different from what we may realize later in life that it was not right, and we need to correct it. But for the matter of fact, this atmosphere or surrounding is so much into our blood and system that we do not even want to change it for our next generation. We pass the same thing to them no matter what promise we made to ourselves while growing up. This continues for generations and ages, and no one wants to break this pattern.

For example, many people nowadays have a fear, or you can say they are confused about whether to have a proper relationship or not? Now, this confusion may be due to some personal experience like you got dumped or cheated, family life or some family experience related to this, or due to social norms that you cannot have a relationship until you marry. This fear whether to have or not, is always associated with some of the other strings related to it. How to come out of this, or how to not to have a fear related to this? The answer is simple!

Trust Yourself

Trust yourself, work and solve your fear rather than letting your fear of the past shadow your future. This fear can make you lose something that you may never find again. Take the help from the experts, talk to the person you are involved with. Understand where you actually get stuck with and what you want to do? Because I have seen people getting involved with someone, and then they say that they are not ready for the relationship. This behaviour is not fair, because you cannot play with someone’s feelings just because you are unsure of your own. You need to sort out in life because you can shurt someone or you can get hurt by someone even further. Continuous wrong decisions will bring down your confidence levels, and you will end up losing faith in yourself as well and well in the concept of relationships. 

This conflict of interest is generally with one particular thing in our lives. May be personal, professional, or sometimes both. When the fear of a specific something is into us, as we get a situation related to that particular issue, our nervous system automatically breaks down, and we tend to fumble to make a decision in life. We most of the time, know the decision we want to take in our life, sometimes it’s okay, and sometimes it’s terrible. 

You can solve the conflict of interest, but the most difficult is to solve it within yourself and make sure you make a decision based on what’s right for you. Not by getting confused with something which may not be relevant today or tomorrow.

Tell us if you have ever had a feeling of conflict of interest, how did you made a choice, share your experiences with us at contact@aarthalife.in 

Understand yourself, stay fit and keep musing!