We all go through experiences when we come out with injured hearts. Heartbreak can be a shallow feeling. You can feel suffocated or caught in a big well of darkness, where you might find no escape. Lack of hunger, a slightly colorblind mindset and lack of direction and motivation. Wait this is not it; there are countless emotions one experiences after a heartbreak.
Can heartbreaks make you strong?
Heartbreaks can evoke a feeling of failure. However, are losses essential to make us strong? Is it is vital to taste failures in life? Well, that’s what because when you go through heartbreak, you get to learn many things. It is one of the most epic human experiences ever.
Here’s what you might learn:
First, no matter what people say, people and situations can pass as a phase. People can fall out-of-love the same way they fell for you. I have never understood the concept of getting bored with a relationship though but still, it is one of the primary reasons people abandon you. Eventually, this leaves you heartbroken.
The second thing you learn is to make sure you always give importance to yourself, no matter in what relationship you are. Because if you give someone more importance than yourself, you might break in such a manner that nothing can help you cope with it.
Third, there is nothing in this world which can test your honesty except the time. When time is good, there is no problem with honesty. Because it is a good time and it is nice and easy, to be honest. Everything is good. However when times are bad, it’s best to know the credibility of people you hang around with. Always remember, people who have to stand by you will have to suffer more than those who are facing the problem. Those people have to tolerate a lot of things than just being by your side. Your mood swings, your issues and people associated with your situation, they will have to face them all. So it is not a cup of tea to be that person.
Security, mental and financial
Everyone wants security. Financial security the most prominent security and the only thing which can protect you when no one is even there with you. Because technically, money can buy everything, even mental health counseling or medication.
There are two specific categories of people: the first one, who is emotional and respect relations. Always love and try to preserve them, no matter what. The second category is the people who love to play with the emotions of the people and hurt them. They fool around with people for nothing. These kinds of people will only behave in a good way in the initial period of any relationship they form. They manipulate people for long to get importance in their life. But as soon as they find that the relationship is growing, they can throw tantrums or ghost out. If a person prefers to be dishonest rather than hurting people with their truth, be very cautious in such relationship they form as they might tend to collapse.
These are the kind of people who value their pride or mental satisfaction more than your heart. They want to ghost from every relation they are into. They are the takers of the world. And hence the professional and personal success rate of these kinds of people can be low.
Why is it common now?
Every year more than 20,000 people suffer depression and end their lives due to heartbreaks. Our previous generation might or might not have felt these kinds of feelings of heartbreaks. They were more into arranged marriages where you have fallen in love with a person because that’s the only choice you have. Or maybe we can never know because there were no social media then. They might or might not have experienced the passionate kind of love in relationships. So they are not into the feeling of being felt alone after being together, probably for a long time. Maybe, they were more into the understanding of the relation then loving the person. Instead as of today, the times where we are in love or build a connection to be together because they want to rather than have to.
Heartbreaks are rampant now, not because our generations are not capable of finding a suitable match, but I guess somewhere, falling in love is still something we don’t understand. We yet do not dare to introduce someone we love to our world. We never want to struggle for a person whom we love, not because we don’t want to hurt our family, but because we do not have the courage. Because we doubt our own choices. Because we are not of habit of selecting the people in our lives, ourselves. Call it dependence on the family for choice of person or the societal pressure but one thing is for sure that we don’t want the burden of choose on us so that we can play the blame game on whom so ever we want in the future if in case we face any problem with that person.
It’s time we be courageous and bold of our choices of person and take the responsibility of that choice to live a life beyond just living. Let’s add life to our Living…..
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Happy musings!
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